[Mm, probably best not to ask. Those two statements, combined with what they've both told her, are enough to paint a rough picture, and she won't ruin things by asking for the gritty details.

So, instead:]

A slight difference between us, I suspect. Your circumstances sound less than ideal; I purposely created mine.

I suppose each way-- tightly wound and not, I mean-- has advantages. It's easier to command obedience, if not respect, the way I do things . . . but yours certainly sounds more fun.